I’m loving spring here in Georgia, and I had my first poppy bloom this week. I planted them last year and didn’t really have much out of it so it gives me hope for what may be blooming. My garden is growing: broccoli and lettuce and kale are all doing pretty well. I love gathering food from my garden. A few weeks ago, I was feeling knocked over by the world and I decided to take extra time to care for myself and that made all the difference. I was able to ease off the self pressure, shift what I was eating slightly to adjust with the seasons a little and my current struggle is getting enough sleep. I believe that I can do it. I believe that I have the skill to change. Are you arguing for your limitations, or do you too believe that change is possible for yourself?
And that’s what I want to talk about today. Believing in yourself and seeing what’s possible for you. Many of my clients can’t quite see what’s on the other side of the current challenges they are dealing with and they don’t believe that they have the ability to change. They don’t see what’s possible on the other side of the transformation yet. There is enough awareness that this is not what they want. They know there has to be a better way, just like I did all those years ago. I was sick. I was miserable. I was in pain, and was told by doctors in my 20’s that if I didn’t make some big changes I was going to see big health problems and soon. I already had insulin resistance with hypoglycemia, migraines, high cholesterol, and polycystic ovarian syndrome. I wasn’t really sleeping enough, I was over working and stressed out, and was in chronic pain from a car accident. I knew that this wasn’t right for being in my 20’s. I knew it wasn’t normal and I knew there had to be a better way. But I didn’t know how.
Most of the students and clients I work with have this idea that there can be a better way, and just like me, they don’t know the how yet. They question if they have the ability to become what they want to become, and to make the changes they would like to make. They don’t yet believe it is possible for them.
Many of them hold stories about themselves or about what’s possible. Here’s some of what I hear from them and maybe you have these stories too. Usually they say: “It’s never worked before“ “Why will it be different this time?” “I just don’t have the willpower” “I can’t do it.” “You just don’t understand, my husband/partner/friends won’t be on board with this change.” These statements may feel innocent enough, and make seem more like a fact in their heads about what is REALLY TRUE. They are fighting for their limitations. They are fighting for the idea of who they are now, not the possibility of what could happen and who they could be.
Ask yourself this question: are you fighting for your own limitations? Are you fighting for keeping the status quo because it is comfortable and it is what you know? Are you fighting for why changing is so hard, and why it won’t work now or ever? Are you fighting for your limitations?
Here’s the good news. You don’t have to believe in yourself because that’s my job. I can hold the space for you and all of the amazingness I see in you. I can see your energy and light and how it is all just waiting underneath the layers of doubt and the critical voice in your head. I see your transformation already achieved. I see you on the other side of the challenges you face and i see you glowing and radiant and vibrant in not only your physical health, but your wellbeing. I see you making steps and changes in your life. I see you on the other side. I see you in your divine light.
That’s why having an integrative wellness coach is so important. I can hold that vision of you until you can hold it for yourself. I am that loving and compassionate voice in your head while you retrain your own inner voice to be one of the compassionate mentor.
